3.2c

Listen to her.
Ask her what she thinks and what she feels and listen to her.
Remember what she says, because they're likely to be important. If you reference them in the future, it will remind her that you care about her enough to remember--that you value her.
Don't keep track. Don't count things, 'cuz little stuff doesn't matter. What matters is the big picture: what's true and what's in your heart.
Tell her what you think: share what you think, 'cuz she can't read your mind any more than she can read hers.
AND REMIND HER that you can't read hers. Girls and women tend to forget that they're giving out all these signs but that you can't read them and that you don't read her like she thinks you are.
Sometimes, we communicate in different ways and maybe you won't know that it's showing love. The way that I show love is by doing things, and not everybody recognizing that as being love. Learn each other's way of giving love and form yourself to receive it and to give in the way that they want to receive. Orient yourself to give in the way that others want to receive love. She may have to go play golf with you and you may have to help around the house.

You'll make mistakes, and she'll make mistakes. Ask her for forgiveness and be ready to provide it and mean it and make it disappear: when you forgive, it's gone.
Gone.
Pray for God to help you. Always, and forever. Because just because you've been with someone a long time doesn't mean that you understand what they need. You're still gonna need to work at it.

If you treat her like your dad treats me, she'll know she's loved. He also needs to listen sometimes, but . . .
Nobody's perfect.