raw
untempered
short-sighted
lust throws the doors of my mind open and pulls in as much filth as it can. It's like doing lines of crack or burning through vials of heroin by blowing it into the last good vein behind my eyeball.
Until my wife walks in, of course, when I, crying out for help, only do bad things where she can catch me and know my pain (never in a dark corner hidden) because all I want is for her to reach out.
Why do pastors seem to get caught with porn more often than other people?
ReplyDeletePowerful post, Robby. Can't answer your question, though.
ReplyDeleteCaptcha: pyrant (mixture of pirate and tyrant??)
a) For some reason, I think I can answer that question.
ReplyDeleteb) This was excellently done. (Should have been first, but I wasted time trying to think of synonyms)
c) Remember the whole "I am a little world" thing? Sometimes it's easy to get caught up in one's own pain and/or in how much someone else has hurt one and not even notice that that someone is dying inside. At least, it is for me.
Yeah, but what's the next step?
ReplyDeleteNot that I'm an expert on helping people through stuff like this, but I think there are at least two things that need to be done:
ReplyDelete1) Churches need to support their pastors better. They have a tremendous amount of pressure placed on them and their families, and this is wrong. Other people in each church need to step up and volunteer to take care of some of the things the pastor normally does.
Also, they need to learn not to keep their pastors in fishbowls. Yes, we should expect high standards from our pastors, but we should also give them a little breathing room.
Also, each church needs to support the pastor's family in prayer and physical support-- babysitting the kids once in a while, helping take care of the house and cars, making other plans for church sometimes so the pastor doesn't have to preach.
Also, each conference needs to employ counselors for their pastors and set up a network of support that is easy to reach and nonjudgmental-- something that will help a pastor instead of fire him if he has problems he's trying to work through.
Also, each conference needs to start dealing with the issues instead of passing hurting pastors from conference to conference.
2) Men need a ministry group that works for them in every church. Every church has women's ministries, but what about men's? Sure, it won't look the same as women's, but it needs to offer them support and brotherhood and guidance. I know many men who need male companionship and many boys who need male guidance.
Sermons are great and help some people, but there needs to be something in place that helps them when the emotional effect is gone.
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Now that I've cursed your blog with a comment that's more like an essay except without specific examples . . . I'm done now.