"Well, don't give me an opportunity to say it, and I won't! When I ask you to do something, I expect it to happen sometime."
"Look, I'm doing my best."
I pause here. I'm debating whether I should say "Do better," or "Your best isn't good enough." I decide on silence and a stern shake of my head.
"Doris, I hate when you do this to me. It hurts when you don't accept me."
Here's my queue. I have nothing good to say to this, so my recourse is to turn around and walk away. I can hear him cussing in the living room. Let him stew. Let him consider his stupid mistake. Let him fix his idiocy.
I can hear Joe angrily slamming the door and driving away. Coward.
Queue?
ReplyDeleteI know what it's like to never be good enough, and I find this story . . .
Are you feeling any better?
cue = queue but I don't know why
ReplyDeleteIT IS MORE FUN TO SPELL?
ReplyDeleteThere are so few words with q. We need all we can get.
ReplyDeleteI don't know why he's a coward. It sounds like one of those things someone throws at someone else that is really about themselves.
He's not, but of course, "you're" gonna think he is.
ReplyDeleteIt's a weird world we live in. Men are seen as moral degenerates because of the Victorian era, and women have power outside the home because of the feminist era. I get the feeling that dudes get the short end of the stick on "fixing" things. If something's wrong, it's assumed it's the man.
ReplyDeleteI kind of like "House" for showing a bit of a different side (now, it's given that Taub is a cheating, lying s.o.b. but . . . ). Taub's wife gets a guy friend from a cheater's support group. Taub points out that she tells this man things that she hasn't told Taub, and not just about cheating and hurt, but about her day: her haircut and her promotion. She's cheating on him emotionally (a valid claim, I think, and more hurtful than most women realize because as men we are often out of our depth).
So . . . who fixes that?
Nobody?
ReplyDeleteIt's hard to be lonely.
Who fixes that?
ReplyDeleteOk, this is my opinion: It's a dual effort. First step, and, in this case, the man's part: state the problem. He lets the woman know what he's feeling--tell her that he wants her to talk to him--to be her best friend, etc.
Step two, girl's part: She needs to start talking to him. To make an effort to involve her in her personal life. (Maybe she didn't realize that he wanted to know, or maybe she didn't want to bother him with trivial things. Maybe she hadn't considered the idea of emotional cheating.)
I would think that any girl would react well to being told that her chosen mate wanted to hear about her day--that he wanted to talk with her about stuff. But, maybe she's an idiot. In which case, the guy can do nothing--it's her choice, and that sucks.
All I know is that if Curtis told me he felt like I was cheating on him emotionally and wanted to hear more about what I do everyday, I would make a point of talking to him more than I do now.
(I think the key is WANTING to fix things.)
I think the problem is that people want everything to BE fixed. Magically. Probably with beans.
ReplyDeleteYes. We've grown up with stories about fairy godmothers, magic beans, and easy buttons. But everything takes effort. Everything--every good thing--takes work.
ReplyDeleteEeh. I know (from experience wheee) that not every woman finds "Oh he's interested in my day" sort of thing attractive. Some people are just wary enough or just broken enough that they have to remain INDEPENDENT so they have to have a barrier. It sucks but it happens.
ReplyDeleteAnd thanks, Brooke, for yet again reaffirming my belief that women can be sane.
(I think everyone comes to a point [some waaay sooner than others] where they realize that being wary and broken is no way to live.)
ReplyDeleteQueue is a great word. The more U's you can fit in a word (and still keep the spelling correct), the better, in my humble Canadian opinion.
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